Many are looking for those things in life which will bring them personal fulfillment and independence. How they love not to depend on anyone for anything, they are walking through life with a search for the ideals rather than the real. Many now seek those pleasures that are gained from one’s fulfillment of the desires, failure of which leads to disappointment; they set their hearts and soul to achieve that which they see as the one that would give them contentment. This could be in the form of respect and therefore go for knowledge, status, achievement, wealth and anything with a perceived value in the society.
Satisfaction has its roots in feelings and thought, all desires find their origin in the soul and heart; they make you feel, think and want. They are perceived desirable and are realized through instincts and functions of the human body and mind. You thus set your mind on something that is supposed to bring pleasure and contentment, you therefore dance, drink, marry, study, steal and many others. The more you try to satisfy them the more you find a bigger groaning you then engage in hard work to achieve it through, beautiful homes, luxurious cars and anything else in order to attain status and acceptance in the society. You then become miserable; for you never seem to have enough, making it more acute the struggle to fulfil these desires. If by any nature you are able to fulfill them it brings arrogance and self-sufficiency, but life is not about independence but interdependence. People need to fellowship because they are fundamentally different from each other.
God is the ultimate source of satisfaction, Christ becomes the center and fulcrum upon which life revolves, this doesn’t remove the perplexities of life but that you may know the joy of being used for mighty purposes by the Almighty God and through this have your life transformed and dignified. A Christian then as Trueblood puts it, is a person who confesses that amidst the many confusing voices heard in the world, there is only one voice that wins his full assent, uniting all his powers, intellectually and emotionally into a pattern of self-giving.
Many humans seek for the ideal ignoring the real; they assume that their views and values, standards and points of view are without argument the best for them. When the reality therefore differs from these stereotype values it results in disappointment, many therefore will turn to marriage, religion, relationships, friends, manipulation, career etc. there is no consistent pattern which things must follow. It is not the slavish adherence to standards
But an ability to humbly re-examine our own conventional expectations and standards relative to what is there in the contemporary world.
Happiness and favor in God does not come from reaching those marks, to attain or reach one’s end and be successful. We cannot attain it by striving. When tempted into actually doing that, it only brings fighting, envy, hatred and manipulation, which are all mechanisms of hiding our own evils.
The essence of desire is real happiness and serenity of the soul is not dependent on social position, economic position nor the educational ladder but on the disposition of the heart. The source of this cannot therefore be in fellow men but God. A right disposition only comes from God, the Psalmist rightly put it when he said, create in a clean heart o Lord and renew a right spirit within me. He later says that a clean and contrite heart will not be despised. Jesus confirms it to us when He says that my joy may remain with you and that your Joy may be full. (John 15:11) the first thing is to seek the Kingdom of God and all these things will be added to you. the Spirit of God will teach you about God and glorify Him, (John 16: 8-15) which is the full duty of man. (Ecclesiastes 12:13)
can there be satisfaction when things are not going well for me? How would that be, I am happy because things are going well for me and I have what I have desired ever to have? Maybe that is true, but I have never found it true in the world we live in, the people with the greatest possessions are normally the most miserable. I am not saying that to justify my luck. Sometime back I visited some relative in the village, this turned out to be quite some experience for me. After having a very nice day, night soon was upon us; with the mindset of the city, I expected everyone to hurry back home because there were no street lights for those who had to stay on until late in the night. I was also told that the area has some hyenas who come out in the dark to search for food. I had noticed though that the doors were made of sticks running across the frames with gaps enough to fit your hand. When the time for sleep came, everyone apart from me was deep asleep while I thought of all the evils imaginable of what could get to me through those gaps. There was so much happiness when this family sat down for dinner amid the evident abject poverty so evident. Contrast this with the men of the city who have all that the world can offer, they hide behind curtains of stone, concrete and steel; a little knock on their door at the wrong time sends panic into their mind, they have forgotten what freedom really looks like. There are many who have therefore put all their trust in their Jobs just for the much comfort they can afford them. How good it would be if we could remember the admonitions of scripture in Proverbs 21: 2, 3; that says all a man’s ways seem right to him, but the Lord weighs the heart. To do what is right and just is more acceptable to the lord than sacrifice.
What else can you do to change the way things are in your life? How sure are you that people will always do the right things as far as you are concerned? What are you really living for? Maybe this are questions you don’t want to answer, maybe you have solutions to all of them. The biggest mistake that we all make is to imagine that we are always in charge of the circumstances around us. We assume that we can change the other people around us to conform to our thinking, how else could you justify your view and priorities in life? How else could you justify all the acquisitions in the name of progress and development? The unfortunate thing is that we all fail to learn the lesson given in the book of Ecclesiastes, Solomon had tried all that there was but still ends up saying that, there was a man all alone; he had neither son nor brother. There was no end to his toil, yet his eyes were not content with his wealth. “for whom am I toiling,” he asked, and why am I depriving myself of enjoyment? This too is meaningless – a miserable business. (Ecclesiastes 4: 8)